26 Nov 2020

Best of 2020: Relationships

12:44 pm on 31 December 2020


“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed" - Carl Jung.

These are our top ten stories about relationships of the year.

Apartners: living happily ever... apart

Montreal filmmaker Sharon Hyman has lived just down the road from the love of her life, David, for the past 20 years.

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Photo: Valeria Bismar

Glennon Doyle: start being who you want to be

For years feeling confined by a life society told her she should be grateful for, writer Glennon Doyle finally listened to her own voice - she left her unfaithful husband and married American soccer star Abby Wambach.

Glennon Doyle

Glennon Doyle Photo: AFP / FILE

How many friends do you really need?

Could having too many friends be bad for you? The answer is yes, according to Oxford University Professor Robin Dunbar who studies human social networks.

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Photo: Photo by Duy Pham on Unsplash

How to make good friends and keep them

We don’t need to swap out the friends we have for new ones, what we need to do is work on the relationships we’ve got, says the founder of a US friend-matching agency.

two elderly women

Photo: eberhard grossgasteiger / Unsplash

Relationships, why messy is good

We shouldn't fear a bit of messiness in our interactions with people we care about, says psychologist Dr Ed Tronick.

two men in bed

Photo: cottonbro / Unsplash

The process and pitfalls of divorce

Divorce is usually painful but it needn’t be horrific, says relationship property lawyer Deborah Chambers QC.

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 Deborah Chambers QC Photo: Supplied

Why we all need human connection

Loneliness is natural, normal and very common – but it's also bad for our health, says Dr Vivek Murthy, former Surgeon General of the United States.

Dr Vivek Murthy,former surgeon general of the United States

Dr Vivek Murthy,former surgeon general of the United States Photo: Public Domain

The value of committed relationships

Intimate relationships have a  positive impact on our mental and physical well-being, says researcher Steph Tan.

couple at sunset

Photo: Alex Ilby / Unsplash

Couples therapist Serafin Upton on solving relationship problems

The saddest part of being a couples therapist is that people come to see you when it's already too late to save their relationship, says Serafin Upton.

Serafin Upton.

Serafin Upton. Photo: CATHERINE CATTANACH 2020

How to break up with friends

Sometimes breaking up with a toxic friend is even harder than ending a romantic relationship, says neuropsychologist Dr Hannah Korrel.

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 Dr Hannah Korrel Photo: Hannah Korrel

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