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Minimising the impact of grey divorce

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(FILE) Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban split after 19 years of marriage on Monday, September 29, 2025. LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA, USA - FEBRUARY 10: Australian-American actress and producer Nicole Kidman and husband/Australian-American country music singer, guitarist, and songwriter Keith Urban arrive at the 55th Annual GRAMMY Awards held at Staples Center on February 10, 2013 in Los Angeles, California, United States. (Photo by Xavier Collin/Image Press Agency/NurPhoto) (Photo by Image Press Agency / NurPhoto via AFP)

Oscar winning actress Nicole Kidman (58) and her husband, country music star Keith Urban (57) are divorcing after almost 20 years together. Photo: IMAGE PRESS AGENCY

News this week that Nicole Kidman has filed for divorce from Keith Urban, her husband of almost 20 years, has put the incidence of grey divorce back in the spotlight.

It goes without saying that relationship break-ups affect more than just the couple involved - they share two teenage daughters - but with a growing number of divorces occurring between people aged in their 50s and older, adult children are being impacted in a way that is less well understood.  

Bruce Fredenburg is a licenced Marriage, Family and Child Therapist practicing in Southern California.

Bruce Fredenburg is a licenced Marriage, Family and Child Therapist practicing in Southern California. Photo: SUPPLIED

Bruce Fredenburg is a Marriage, Family and Child Therapist who was himself confronted with the prospect of his parent's divorce when he was in his early 30s. A licensed practitioner for over 40 years, Bruce co-authored a book called Home Will Never Be the Same Again: A Guide for Adult Children of Gray Divorce. 

He is also a divorce coach and joins Mihingarangi from Southern California with advice for parents - at all stages of life - on how to divorce "well" - and how to tell their children when they want to start dating again! 

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