How embracing the hard tasks can actually be good for you

From Nights, 9:25 pm on 2 February 2026

Here’s another buzzword to add to your vocabulary: Friction maxxing.

It’s the idea of pushing back against technology stripping all the friction out of our lives — something that’s become easier and easier to do in modern life.

It’s about deliberately rebuilding a tolerance for so-called inconveniences, the kinds of small frictions that are often just part of sharing a life and space with other people.

Director of the New Zealand Institute Wellness and Resilience, Dr Denise Quinlan and self-described 'recovering pessimist' joins Emile Donovan to discuss whether this new trend has merit.

Father and son looking on sunset at the sea

Father and son looking on sunset at the sea Photo: Soloviova / AFP